Five Tips to Reject the Fear of Rejection fear coach

I've got a confession to make. Mutzumeigenenleben.de I'm running a MLM (multi level marketing)/e-commerce business. Next to my counselling & coaching business. And I have been doing so since 2007.

The Fortune 500 list is full of MLM/network marketing companies, and nearly every expert (read Robert Kiyosaki's books, for instance; or listen to Donald Trump) states that e-commerce is the way to go in the future. It is easy to do, easy to understand, and creates a generous passive income stream.

Sounds easy, doesn't it? It is! As long as you stay in the system, and put in some effort, it IS really easy, predictable and profitable. I am coaching people in setting up their business, and assist them creating that initial income stream. Peanuts!

Why, then, do so many -me included- people baulk at the idea, and are they afraid or wary to get involved in MLM/network marketing?

Well, apart from fears of getting trapped into some sort of pyramid scheme (which genuine e-commerce businesses are NOT), it is one MAJOR fear.

Rejection. The good old fear of rejection.

Part of the MLM/network marketing game is the "spread the word"-activity. It ain't gonna work if you ain't gonna work it. And working it means letting people know about the existence of the company you are working with. Many people freak out at the idea of "sharing the opportunity".

The fear of rejection is a massive one. Some personality types are more sensitive to (fear of) rejection than other ones, but generally every type has some form of grudge against it.

Logically, fear of rejection doesn't make any sense at all. IF you know what to do, and understand that MLM/network marketing is basically a numbers game, then e-commerce is the logical choice for everyone who wants to make an extra dollar and become financially independent -my opinion anyway. Hoping that employers will save the day and provide you with a safe future is something of the past.

Emotions are not logical, though, and that's where we fall off the wagon when it comes to us fearing rejection.

Now whether it is e-commerce, public speaking, approaching the (to be) love of your life or making a sale, fear of rejection nearly always pops up. There are a number of ways to deal with it, and I just want to run five of them past you.

Get over it. You're scared. So what. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Start building the belief in, and the desire for what it is you want instead of for what you do NOT want.

Apply intervention techniques like Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) to your rejection fear.

Engage the services of a coach, with whom you can set up an accountability relationship, and to whom you can commit taking action.

Okay, I'll give you FIVE solutions...

5. Realise that what you want is SO far out of your value set (which is why you feel the fear of rejection) that you're better off dropping it altogether.

Ad 1. This is the battering ram approach, and it's a classic! If your desire for what's "on the other side" is big enough, you'll face your demons and move beyond them. Fears of rejection in public speaking are overcome by joining a Toastmasters -or any other public speaking- Club, and getting in front of people. Fear of meeting people for networking marketing purposes are overcome by actually saying "hi". Approaching your dream prince(ss) means walking and talking!

Ad 2. There is a balance between what you want and what you don't want. All life's events are a stick, metaphorically speaking; the stick has two ends: what is wanted, and what is unwanted. Both exist, and both are always a possibility. Which end of the stick you live your life on depends on your (ability to) focus. Focussing on what you do not want (being rejected) will make you feel "off", and will make you focus your sense on picking up more pieces of evidence on the "do not want" scale ("see, I told you so!!" is a typical response). Through thought effort and discipline you can learn how to focus your thoughts more in the direction of what you DO want. As a consequence, you will experience more of what you do want in your daily life. It is Law.

Ad 3. NLP is a great set of tools to overcome fears like the fear of rejection. Anchoring positive states, interrupting negative patterns, reframing fearful perceptions, changing the representational aspects of the fear; there are many ways to use NLP effectively. It goes too far to describe them all here. Do some internet research on "how to use NLP to overcome the fear of rejection". I ran this search just now, and loads of good content popped up. Granted, it may be hard to use NLP all by yourself, as some of the exercises require intervention by an outsider. This is where the 4th solution comes in.

Ad 4. Every Olympian has a coach. In fact, every serious athlete has a coach. Serious business people have coaches/mentors/counsellors as well. Serious "ordinary" people should have coaches as well; definitely if you are serious about making positive changes to your circumstances. I have a hard time understanding why people find it totally normal that athletes and business people are coached, but seem to pull up their eyebrows when it comes to personal coaching. Anyway, if you have bigger plans for yourself, and cannot see a way to achieve it all by yourself, a coach/mentor/counsellor can help. That is all I will say about it. Over to you.

Ad 5. If you fear of rejection remains that strong that neither of the 4 solutions above seem to help you, then it may be time to check your values set, and its priority. Values are the things we consider important in our lives. Your values generally are open to observation by looking at the way your live your life. What you are living right now, is the result of acting upon what you think is important in your life, in a certain order of priority.